Tuesday, August 2, 2011
There is not a human on the face of this earth that could not use a little "Self Improvement, Discipline or Change." No, not one. We each have a tendency to think we are right most of the time, and about most things. We tend to think we are totally together in most ways and would not need to be engaged in 'Self Improvement.' More than likely, we each have a different flaw, fault, or need to try to improve to make 'our' life better; not someone else. The problem is that most of the time we see other people's faults and not our own.
We should know that not any of us are right all of the time, about all things; if we really think about it. There is always room for change and discipline. Front and center, each of us have habits which need to be adjusted to help make our life more surreal and genuine. Why is it always the other person who needs to change? Why is it that we like to see our world in one form which we can relate to? Who says the world we relate to is the way it should be? If each of us had all things our way; what would this world be like? I don't even want to think about it....and neither do you.
It is usually our perception of things that get us into trouble. We draw conclusions based upon things done or said that we totally have no true enlightenment about. We do not even want to be enlightened; we just simple want it to be our way. We have a tendency to base our conclusions about things on what another person has concluded and what someone else might feel. We somehow forget to be strong advocates for self individualism when we make our own conclusions about another. The only true analysis of something is to know first handed the entire situation. How do we know facts? Simply because someone told us the facts? Not quite. We assume the person who told us that Saturday should be Sunday, or related to us the story about someone's bad behavior; had the facts. So we decide that Saturday should be Sunday because they said so and we aren't strong enough to simply believe things are the way they are for a reason. So, we develop our perceptions from what we have been told and we repeat those, which are not facts, and which could be harmful or hurtful to someone else. Again, perceptions from another person who has not witnessed the event, occurrence or happening or what should happen, because they feel this way.... is not facts and we are turning it into gossip or discord. Who are we to make judgment how life should be for another individual or why should we think; Saturday should be Sunday just to please us? This of course is only our 'opinion,' which when all said and done, amounts to nothing.
Most of us have at some point repeated something that has been said or done without really knowing the facts (we weren't there), we were not looking into the soul of that person, but we can't bring ourselves to the self discipline of not repeating the gossip. If we repeat what we haven't seen it becomes gossip. Somebody said this, thus and so. Why is this so hard? This is one prime example of why we all need self improvement, discipline and change of one type or another. Not just in our natural self but in our spiritual self. If we are spiritual, we will see things truly different from the natural man, and it will be within the parameters of what is right. When we connect our natural self with our spiritual; we will guard our human nature more proficiently. This world would be a better place to live in if we could develop a habit of working on our own self discipline, not just to be a self individualist, but to be a better human being.
We are all guilty.....yes, we are!
Another way for us to tell if we need 'self improvement' and 'change' is when we judge another soul by their actions which we feel are in-appropriate. We assume a lot of things about people which has nothing to do with who they really are. We again draw conclusions without the facts. We assume these people need to improve themselves to be more like us. They act weird, they behave differently than we would so they are asking for judgment from others. They should know how they are suppose to relate to life and act normal, like us.????
That said; psychology tells us that we are all unique, separate and special in our own right. How we act can be based upon circumstances beyond our control, or which has developed because of life experiences which may have hurt them. It can also be due to trauma from painful experiences, and needs which have not been met. Why do we allow ourselves to think that our method of behavior is correct? Have we ever stopped to think that George needs attention for a reason? Why does Sue talk so loud? Doesn't she know it is rude; who wants to hear her mouth? Have we stopped to talk to George or Sue long enough to find out why they behave the way they do? Have we looked into their eyes and tried to see their sincerity? Have we tried to find compassion and try to help George feel good about himself and pat him on the back for something well done? Does Sue talk loud for a reason? No, we probably have not! We just sit and judge instead of trying to communicate to learn something that just might be of benefit to us. We might learn something about ourselves in trying to understand another.
Deeper into this subject we know that all of our experiences are not equal, and we should be thankful if our experiences have not dealt us too much sorrow. We all have good, and some bad in our life that leaves us baffled and we sometimes relate to life in a baffled manner. That makes us all human and all need some kind of self discipline and change, at certain times in our life. Suffering cases pain, and pain will cause us to act differently than we normally would. What a person's opinion about us, who is clueless to who we really are; really doesn't matter as long as we know our inner man/woman is striving to be the best possible human and if we are doing that; we will not sit in judgment of another soul.
What matters the most is how we feel about our own actions and if we can see our own need for self improvement, self discipline or change. We should ask ourselves if we are measuring up. Are we living our life in a way that when we are judged, it will not matter because we are doing the best we can to improve our reactions to life, our attitude toward others and our inner man. Others may see us differently than we see ourselves and we can be blinded to our own needs, therefore it is important that we keep a close check on us; not another. We promote ourselves when we promote others.
In conclusion, this article is for me, you and any human who thinks their life is paramount. There is no such thing.....believe that....we each need a little help now and then.