What is this profound way that a person can be happy without having wealth or Success? Is it true, if so then why am I not happy? Could be you do not see that you have plenty to be happy about but are mistakenly, looking for the wrong things in the wrong places and do not know what “happiness” is. I will try to answer as best my knowledge lets me.
Success we know does not bring happiness to anyone. It is actually two different things. Happiness is a place where one becomes at peace in mind, body and soul. Outside circumstance do not affect your ability to be happy with yourself…These are my perceptions and let me explain. Psychology and self help material indicates the same message I have about happiness. I have read, heard and seem people who had very little earthly things yet they were happy and I have seen individuals who had substantial assets; worldly good but were miserable. If you watch the news and the so called famous; you can see more unhappiness that Carter had peanuts. I am not joking and it is a fact; just watch the news. Sometimes it seems that the more financial means one has, the more they appear to be unhappy or confused and sometimes addicted.
The people that have little earthly goods and are happy are those who have decided that life is too short to go around with their heads down and complaining constantly about their life and how bad it is. They get up go to work everyday, pay their bills, eat the food their income allows, they exercise their brain by reading and dwelling on their many blessings. Oh yea, blessings with a capital B. They keep their body in shape with exercise, their blood pressure low and their heart pumping adequately by not worrying for one measly second about how Mr. Jones across the street can have four cars and the biggest house in the subdivision. Happiness: satisfaction, cheer, content, exuberance, hope, gladness, laughter, optimism, enjoyment, pleasure, well-being, peace of mind. To mention only a few things that describes happiness.
Did you see anywhere that is says “Success” “money” “wealth”? Nothing about any of the words above is material.
Satisfaction: If we learn to be satisfied with what we have been blessed with, we will probably get to a better state of peace. If we are not satisfied with what we have then it is up to us; to find whatever it is that we need or must have to make us satisfied. If one can’t do the latter then they should in fact; accept and be satisfied where they are and with what they have.
Cheer: Cheerful people are a blessing to be around. They draw other people to them and usually make others feel cheerful also. Does it mean that everything is hunky doo are the times…nope….but…it makes life more livable in the present.
Content: Contentment is comfort where they are. Which can mean a clean bed to sleep in, with two sets of sheets, water to flush the toilet, cheese and cracker for bedtime snack and they sleep well because they don’t have a ton of bills for buying things they didn’t need to begin with? They have the necessities and they employ a strong desire to be content with the necessities.
Exuberance: They have energy about their life in general, they are excited to be alive and healthy and know that it takes enthusiasm to make each day work as it should.
Hope: “Without Hope We Perish”…the Bible. They keep their hope but do not expect anything out of the ordinary over and above what they need in life.
Gladness: They possess appreciation and cheer for their blessings with a certain joy for daily health, job, peace and contentment.
Laughter: “Laughter doeth good like a medicine” the Holy Bible. Instead of crying about the little petty things that want to drag them down; they laugh about it. They actually find things to laugh about…They look back at the funny things and remember that if we can laugh at ourselves; why do we care if other do. Laughing at ourselves gives us power over any defeat. Laughing at a blunder gives one the ability to take control of the mistakes and the mistake does not take control of the person. When is the last time you laughed?
Optimism: there is absolutely nothing worse than a pessimist. Optimism is what keeps us from breaking down emotionally when negative things seem to be out numbering the positive. Self talk eliminates…optimistic self talk that is; helps one to believe there is a brighter view, a more favorable solution, a better plan, a finished product, more to the picture, that it isn’t over until its over and tomorrow is another day, if we live to see it. The positive side will always help you sleep better than the negative. If you can’t change something before you go to bed…dwell on the optimistic side and who knows by morning it could be changed anyway. It was not as bad as perceived and even if it has not gotten better; it is no worse.
Enjoyment and pleasure: they enjoy the little things such as dinning with the entire family in the evening. They make it special and they have pleasure in being with their family and finding out how everybody’s day was. They make it a habit of being together and discussing the positive and proclamation of the possible tomorrow. They are not going in seven different directions at dinner. They are family and that’s how families become close.
Well Being: similar to satisfaction…contentment, gratification. They are full of contentment and gratification. They are content with their life because they know that are putting first things first and they are grateful for what they have…but more so grateful for “WHO” they are. Satisfied, contentment and gratification…they are not always looking for something “NEW” to make them happy, they are happy where they are.
Peace of Mind: they possess calmness, comfort, tranquility, patience, repose, restraint, quiet, silence, serenity, “MENTAL FREEDOM”.
We hear over and over that Success is a journey and I believe that is correct. It comes in many packages. What is success for one may be for someone else mere hogwash. If we are striving for something that isn’t attainable, we are in the middle of a nightmare that is never going to end. No one would want to live life that way. I don’t, so I have decided that I will make peace with where I am and work on being successful in doing the things that are good for me to make my life better but not in an exaggerated way. If I hit something big…hooray for me! It does not mean that I am dead yet or lazy…but it means I am not striving for Success over happiness which is only obtainable from within me. It does not mean that I am not suppose to get another job, if I need one or make more money, pay my bills or just go through life halfway. No, it means that I will be calm, patient, and silent, quiet and have an attitude of serenity so that when an opportunity knocks to make my life better, I will know the path to take. If I can produce these attributes in my life; I will have a mental freedom and be blessed with the ability and power to know that happiness is something I create myself by living my life in a way that is appropriate and attract additional blessing as they come.
“Success is not happiness; happiness is not success. It is by finding happiness that we become Successful.”. linda
“We cannot look around us, above us, beneath us to find happiness…it is when we look within and learn to love ourselves that we reach our full potential and find the happiness that was already there.” linda
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